"Closing your eyes isn’t going to change anything. Nothing’s going to disappear just because you can’t see what’s going on. In fact, things will even be worse the next time you open your eyes. That’s the kind of world we live in. Keep your eyes wide open. Only a coward closes his eyes. Closing your eyes and plugging up your ears won’t make time stand still."
- Haruki Murakami

Why don't you write a book? Id read it.

- Asked by linkwrayganyouth

I am in the process of organizing a myriad of projects that will act as components to the blog, such as:

  • One on one counselling sessions via video chat (or in person)
  • Dramatic short films emphasizing lessons through symbolism
  • One hour live Q&A sessions/interviews/debates
  • A clothing line with dramatic, revealing imagery and insightful messages to go along with them
  • An online community/general organization so that others can contribute their own insights and creativity, as well as possibly aid me in running the site
  • And indeed a book that will be a compilation of my essay’s, quotes, and perhaps even poems, organized and significantly edited. Most of the essays on display here are 2+ years old and do not accurately reflect my current abilities as a writer.

The most difficult aspect is maintaining the time to run this site efficiently, providing consistent quality content/insight, while efficiently implementing all of these new features, and of course, devoting time to the myriad of other priorities in my life offline. I have never in my life undertaken something so wildly ambitious, so it will unfortunately take a bit of time to reach fruition.

How do I balance between being spiritual and being politically-aware? Politics, especially American Foreign Policy in the Middle East and Africa, angers me. Injustice and destruction infuriates me. All these negative emotions hold back spiritual progress, so what to do?

- Asked by Anonymous

A focused effort to remain optimistically averse to negativity my not necessarily promote “spirituality”, so much as denial. Be careful that you are not blinded by ideals that hold no ground in Reality. Negative emotions in response to perceived oppression are rational, and entails the essential motivation for cultivating a will to parry injustices. Apathy is the true evil.

HOW TO DEAL WITH FEELING INCOMPETENT AND INCAPABLE IN LIFE?

- Asked by Anonymous

Insecurity should inspire motivation to educate oneself and cultivate initiative, rather than mourning one’s perceived incapacitates. Thought needs to be balanced with action, some risks need to be taken, we didn’t evolve by remaining complacent for the past 14 billion years.

You will never know the confidence you seek unless you personally experience the vivid sensation of persisting through your anxiety. You have to take initiative to secure the circumstances that you desire.

Find motivation in the thought of lying on your deathbed, terrorized by the trauma of regret, the knowledge that you squandered a lifetime of potentially meaningful, euphoric experiences.

Could you please provide some insight. I am dating a 24 year old guy who is depressed and does not know what he wants to do in life so he just does drugs and plays video games/watches TV. His depression is so consuming that he is always exhausted & has low sex drive. Besides all this, he is very sweet and beautiful and funny and extremely kind. He is very intelligent but is afraid and insecure. How can I help as his girlfriend? I am on the verge of breaking up with him.

- Asked by Anonymous

Depression is often an overarching generalization for a myriad of issues. Encourage your significant other to focus on identifying the components of his patterns that yield such a crushing lack of motivation, the oppressive circumstances that compel his lifestyle of escapism through television and substance abuse.

If change does not take place sooner than later though, I would recommend preparing yourself for painful but necessary decisions. You cannot obsessively worry about his mental health. You will end up neglecting your own. Be careful not to romanticize parasitism.

Your empathy in conjunction with his unwillingness to grow, will weigh down on you like an anchor, as you consent to suffering on his behalf. Perhaps your rejection will incur such a state of agony and self disgust within him, that he will be motivated like never before, to transcend his stagnancy.

How do you steer conversation from everyday social banter to something more honest and intimate? Perhaps an example would help. I have trouble with having deeper conversations even with friends at times. Much appreciated.

- Asked by Anonymous

Inquire as to what people’s passions are, ask them to share something significant with you, analyze their responses and express noted correlations or contradictions through your observations of them, convey an honest enthusiasm, and if you’re anxious, express that you are, explain that you’re trying something new, that you want to legitimately connect with people, that you can no longer stand the thought of squandering potential to establish intimate, co-empowering relationships with others.

These topics prompt critical thought, and yield a mutual benefit in the education that they provide to yourself and others. This establishes an environment more focused on legitimate communication, and thus the co-empowerment that this yields, rather than anti-communicative social persona’s that when prioritized in social environments, ironically only maintain separation because they have no basis in Reality.

Most importantly, you need to be willing to utilize your own vulnerability as an invitation for others to do so themselves, and to show them that it’s not only safe, but completely essential should they desire fulfillment.

"We have a fear of facing ourselves. That is the obstacle. Experiencing the innermost core of our existence is very embarrassing to a lot of people. A lot of people turn to something that they hope will liberate them without their having to face themselves. That is impossible. We can’t do that. We have to be honest with ourselves. We have to see our gut, our excrement, our most undesirable parts. We have to see them. That is the foundation of warriorship, basically speaking. Whatever is there, we have to face it, we have to look at it, study it, work with it and practice meditation with it."
- Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche

How would u deal w/ loneliness? As far as lack of connection w/ people. I feel annoy ppl with my questions & thoughts about existence, philosophy, society that I cant connect & kindof have to dumb myself down or be shallow to interact with others.

- Asked by lunalv

Continue taking the risk of honest expression around the company that you currently keep. If they make it a priority to passive aggressively undermine your initiative to establish a more authentic social dynamic, then perhaps it is time to accept the temporary insecurity of separation.

We grow as individuals, not as a collective, which often results in the difficulty of maintaining relationships with those unwilling to meet us halfway in our initiative. You do not owe your empathy to those who, feeling threatened by your intelligence, would seek to oppress you through subtle power plays.

You will ultimately have to choose between squandering your own potential through consenting to paralyzing social dynamics that weigh on you like an anchor, or forge a path that will inevitably draw the attention of more like minded individuals.

How do I make myself more interesting?

- Asked by Anonymous

We are all inherently “interesting”. What you mean is that you want others to recognize this in you, which means you’re going to have to work on being more honest and expressive, despite what your anxiety may tell you. Be patient with yourself, you will progress in increments, so long as you remain persistent in your authenticity and initiative.

Do not attempt to appeal to others simply for the sake of approval, you’ll forever be a slave to the false image they have of you. The pain will hit you when you go home at night, unfulfilled because of your inauthentic relationships, the pseudo-communion where you can see one another, but feel nothing, because all real experience has been drowned out in anti-communicative social persona’s.

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